Who pays the Bill on a date?

[ade5675]

It is one issue men are screaming of gender discrimination and women are avoiding like a plaque. When you are on a date with someone of the opposite sex, who picks up the bill.
 
- The man
- The Woman
- Equal sharing
- The man but the woman should offer
- Whoever calls the date
 
Let's hear your views...

[ojore]

The man offcourse. When I go out on a date with any man, I expect the man to pick up the bill. I won't even pretend and offer to pick up any bill. A complete gentle man never allows the woman to pick up the bill on a date. That is how I have been brought up to view it  by my parents and that is how I am bringing up my kids (both the boys and girls)to view it as well. I know some think that it is okay for both parties to share the bill. But I'm sorry that is not me. I have never done it and would never do it and I have no apology for my stand on this.  I am not a feminist, rather I am very old fashion when it comes to thing like this in a relationship. I believe that men and women have different and distinctive role and picking up the bill on a date is definitely not a woman,s. If the man genuinely don't have enough to cover the cost of the date, then I will happily make up the difference but he has to pay it back. It's just a matter of principle with me, I do not pick up the bill on a date. I can treat my man every now and then and it will be very clear that it is my treat to him and I will foot the bill then. Other than that If we go on a date 100 times, he picks up the bill a 100 times. period

[ade5675]

Not all dates are good dates.
 
What if your date is only willing to share the bill or your date is not willing to bear the full responsibility of the bill because you happen to be one of those bad dates?
 
Are you willing to contribute something or same o' principle.

[ojore]

What or who makes a date a bad one in the first instance?. Is it when the man does not have his way or when his expectations are not met?. Like for instance he thinks the woman is an intelligent woman and during the course of the date finds out she is not or vice versa. Or he finds out that she has some habit that he does not find attractive afterall?. It goes both ways you know and whatever the reason for the bad date, he still foots the bill as far as I am concern. He should cut his loses and no second date. period. I must say though that I have never gone on a bad date and so really don't know what constitute a bad date. Going on a date and discovering that you both don't really gel together isn't really a bad date to me as that probably was the reason for the date in the first instance, to see if you'll gel together.

[kyonmax]

it is just so sweet to find that on almost every other thing a woman insists on equality but when it comes to things like picking up the tab on a date she will have none of it and would insist that it is the mans place.

i find it very funny and hypocritical.

[ojore]

We are all equal in the eyes of God, man, woman, Child, old, black, white etc. At the same time we are all created differently with distinctive features and responsibility in the case of a man and woman. So let us not confuse  responsibility with equality. And like I said I am not a feminist. Never been one.  I know what my role is as a woman and I do try to fulfil my role within my relationship and that does not make me unequal to my man

[kyonmax]

We are all equal in the eyes of God, man, woman, Child, old, black, white etc. At the same time we are all created differently with distinctive features and responsibility in the case of a man and woman. So let us not confuse  responsibility with equality. And like I said I am not a feminist. Never been one.  I know what my role is as a woman and I do try to fulfil my role within my relationship and that does not make me unequal to my man

i really need to see the rule book that says a woman must not pay the bills on a date because it is not her responsibility. i insist that it is just a convinient argument that women come up with to get a free lunch or dinner.i dont agree that a woman cannot pay the bills on  a date because "it is the mans responsibility".

i remember a girl who once told me that "women love to shop, particularly when it is not their money they are spending". im sure that as far as she is concerned it is also a mans responsibility to foot the bill when a woman goes shopping. the mere fact that she reasons that way does not mean it is true.

why would a woman believe that in every other thing she can be equal to a man except in footing the bill for a date or for any other thing for that matter?

[ade5675]

A female co-worker says she will pay the bill as long as she is very interested. This is a French lady.  Shouldn't the rules be the same for our African ladies.

[ojore]

I am sure there will be some other French lady who does not believe in paying the bill on a date. It is not an African or white thing. Because that French lady is willing to foot the bill on a date does not mean all French ladies will do the same. In the same manner because I personally will not foot the bill on a date does not mean that all African or Nigerian women will not do so.
As to the rule book, I will refer you to the bible and age old custom and tradition that has always been that the man's duty and responsibility is to provide for his woman or family, and the woman's to bear children and take care of the home.  Offcourse in this modern day and age, those roles may have shifted a bit but the basic principles still apply. That is why I'm sure you Kyonmax for instance still see yourself as the head of your household and the main provider irrespective of whether your wife also work or not and will not have it any other way if you can help it. And this rule to me should apply to all relationships between a man and a woman be it permanent or temporary. There should be no selective application. Don't get me wrong if need be, I will help out financially, but if my man is able then as far as I am concern he should do it without expecting any contribution or sharing from me period

[Alatika]

Whoever calls the date


Which woman calls a date ?

:sad-animated:

[Orobo]

The man always pays the bill .... and the woman pays for it later.

[luciano]

O-rob-o, my thanks is to acknowledge the pioneering efforts of some of you I met on this site.Hope  one day we'll  hear from 'Banta too.

Ade, hope you remember what I told you last year about me,my students,Jan-July and WAEC/NECO........

Will however keep in touch with our forum as much as I can especially on red-hot issues.

:hands::peace:

[ojore]

The man always pays the bill .... and the woman pays for it later.

:laughing::laughing: That's a good one Orobo. But you forget that she will only pay for it if there is a "later". That is if the date progresses further.

[luciano]

When shall we men understand that there are some topics that are of natural disadvantage to us?This one belongs to Cicero.

[ade5675]

The man always pays the bill .... and the woman pays for it later.

That's surely a good one, Orobo.
So nothing goes for nothing?

:peace:


Case closed, over to the ladies

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